"My mother... didn’t understand when I would ask not to have large portions or more servings, or when I did not want to come to dinner... When I was ready to leave [her house], she'd ask if I wanted to take home some food."
Accuse or cause feelings of guilt
Demand weight changes (even if clinically necessary for health)
Put timetables on recovery
Give more help than you are qualified to give
Try to control the person's life
Place guilt or blame
Take the person's actions personally
Insist the person eat every dish at the table
Invite the person out to eat or to go clothes shopping
Make eating, food, clothes, or appearance the focus of conversation
Try to change the person's attitudes about eating or nag about food
Use scare tactics to get the person into treatment
Be a 'budinsky' and contact the patient's doctors behind his or her back
Make promises or rules you cannot or will not follow (like promising not to tell anyone or threatening, "if you do this once more I'll….")